a Resilient life [blog]

August 30, 2016

The world was made to be free in, says poet David Whyte. I feel most free when I feel loved for who I truly am. Love and Belonging: two essential human needs that are often elusive, yet we never stop searching for them until we find them. When we feel like we don't belong, we often settle for fitting in - a pursuit which Brené Brown has termed "hustling for your worthiness".  You know how it goes: A dinner party with your new love and all his friends you've never met. You agonize over what to wear. When you arrive you pull out all your tricks, your best stories of when you traveled the world, name dropping subtly and wondering if there's anything stuck in your teeth...The Agony!!!! We have all hustled for our worthiness at some time, but it's a miserable affair. Because at the root of it you believe, "If they find out who I really am, they will not accept me. And then I will be abandoned by the tribe and eaten by a prehistoric cave bear...

August 24, 2016

If you are at a scary place, these four words can be a lifeboat: Begin, Believe, Behave, Become. I wish I could remember where I read this simple, powerful phrase that acted as a guide to Unraveling myself, as Susannah Conway would say. What I didn't know on the beach in Santa Monica 15 years ago when I read this revelation was that you don't just do these steps once and then find yourself healed - you do them over and over and over. And therein lies the magic; the joy you seek is in the process of having the courage to begin again a thousand times- because you finally start believing you're worth it. Sometimes you can behave your way into believing you're worthy of love, fake it till you make it actually works in many cases. Believe and Become work together like a feedback loop: When you believe you are worthy, you start behaving like a person who thinks they are worthy, which makes you believe more strongly that you're worthy, and so on. The vulnera...

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